wee~ I now have a grand total of 2 comments on my site. *Ahem* Now where was I? ah yes, my topic of today:
Friends and Crushes
My love life is bleh. I don’t mingle, I don’t bar-hop, and I rarely go clubbing. But you know what? I think I’m still approaching this whole dating / singles scene the right way. I’m not really the type that would walk up to a lady and drop a line and a number. It’s not just fear of rejection… it’s also that I think it’s really stupid for me to say I’m interested in someone because I like how they look. I just do what I normally do: Tennis, hang out online, sip and chat at a cafe. and go to church (when I can get up on-time). If I bump into any nice ladies, I’ll be friendly. If we end up being good friends, I wonder if there is anything more. Recently, I’ve been wondering if this is a bad idea. I get the idea that when a lady becomes friends with you, she is expecting to just be friends (aka “I only think of you as a friend.”) Is this true?
If it is true, then I’ve been going about this the wrong way. If being friends means you will prolly always be friends, I should stop trying to be a nice guy and just look nice. Who cares about personality when the ladies will look for the “right look” and think about personality later? Work on learning how to hit on chicks without comming off as lame or retarded.
If it’s not true, then I should keep working on my personality and styling/clothes become secondary. When I find something lacking in one of my relationships, work it out and learn how to avoid it from becoming an issue again.
Add on top of this, I think that sometimes what ladies say they want isn’t what they really want. “I want someone who’s nice, caring, sensitive, and good looking.” “I’m dating this guy… he’s pretty nice, is dumb sometimes, but he’s really cute looking”
I think that the most simplest equation is what works in most cases: Money + Good Looks + Fashionable = Ladies man (unless you are a complete jackass, in which case ladies just want your money and maybe hang you off their arm…)
we all know girls like bad boys… at first anyway… then settle with the nice ones (see other more recent comment in older entry :P)
no sharing my recipe..heheheh 🙂 not all girls think the same way you know. good thoughts you have on your page 🙂
hey =). cool beans and 2 props for you for having a xanga site. ^^
btw, about your entry – girls are complicated. accepting that as a fact and not questioning it will lessen the headaches, believe me. and just be yourself..the right one will come along someday, and see all the goodnesses (is that a word?) you have inside, and love you for just who you are. ^_~
don’t think about it she says… haha, to have such a luxury… But goobers certainly knows the right things to make someone go all mushy..
<3<3<3<3 –/–<@
sheeesh….sounds soooo negative~ well anyways, lemme answer your questions. In some cases, YES ladies just wanna stay as friends, and YES we ALL KNOW appearance is the first think you look at. BUT…but but but you can look damn gq but if your personality is like a total jerk, all the finer things u have won’t really help. unless…(like you said) they are gold-diggers
dang it… I figured my bitterness from my last bout with romance wouldn’t show.. but oh well… :-/
gonna take awhile for some scars to heal I guess…